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The next time that you are about to have a casual conversation a member of the opposite sex, stop and ask yourself if you really want to have a ‘happy’
life! Researchers have found that small talk
is out and deep, serious conversations
is the way to proceed.
Deep Conversations Make People Lead a Happy Life
A new study revealed that people who indulge in meaningful conversation are more likely to be happier than those who engage more in irrelevant talks. Purposeful talks can make people cheerful.
Researchers from the University of Arizona analyzed the basic difference between people who are happy and those who are unhappy. It was established that people feel happier when they indulged more in meaningful conversations than in insignificant ones.
Matthias Mehl, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, said, “Profound conversations have the potential to make people happier”.
In the study, 79 women and men had been requested to carry inconspicuous recording devices for four days to observe the conversations they had with the other persons.
According to the study, cheerful people don’t spend their time alone. Happiest persons spent 70% time discussing, in comparison to those who were not happy. Women were more likely to share their feelings than men.
The study found that happiness does not necessarily come from meeting people, but it comes from indulging in meaningful and important conversations with people.
The results astonished researchers, which revealed that the type of conversations people had affected their level of happiness.
While cheerful people were more likely to indulge in meaningful talks, the unhappy ones were more likely to engage in small talks, results published in Psychological Science showed.“Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners”
, said Matthias Mehl.
AND THE PRESTIGEOUS
SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN QUOTES THE STUDY!
Happy People Talk More Seriously
A recent study analyzed 20,000 conversations
and found that happiness strongly correlated with talkative people who went beyond the small talk.
While sometimes small talk can lead to interesting connections, according to a new study in the journal Psychological Science it might be best if you move from small talk quickly into a more substantial conversation.
Researchers analyzed 20,000, 30-second samplings of the daily conversations of study volunteers, and organized them into trivial chatter or more serious discussion. The participants also took personality and well-being assessment tests.
And they found that the happiest participants spent 70 percent more time talking with others than the least happy people. But more than just measuring amount of time spent talking with others, they also found a difference in the type of conversation happier folks engage in.
The happiest participants had twice as many substantive conversations and only a third as much small talk as those who are least content.
Of course this study finding shows correlation not causation.
BUT WHAT ABOUT GETTING LAID?
THE ABOVE STUDY IS ONLY ABOUT BEING HAPPY….
DOES ‘HAPPIER’ MEAN THAT YOU ARE GETTING MORE SEX? I SUSPECT THAT SMALL TALK REMAINS MORE EFFECTIVE!
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SPRAGGETT ON CHESS